We have all been there, in the typical “don’t tell anybody” situation, where person A tells person B a secret and specifies to not tell anybody, but person B doesn’t care and tells person C the secret and also specifies to not tell anybody and the chain keeps on going. I find it so ironic that people share information that they have been told not to share and when they do so they even tell the other person not to share the information. This has happened to be so many times that it’s come to the point where it’s funny. I have noticed through time that there are actually very few people I can truly trust and this has made me think; why is trust so important? Why do people share things they are told not to share?
Trust is the basis of all types of relationships and it is something that we all seek, even unconsciously. For example, when we were younger, our best friends are nothing less than the people that we most trust. It’s as simple as that. It’s that powerful trust between best friends that forms the strongest relationships, the happiest ones and the ones you have the most fun with. There is a saying that goes “You may not always trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust” and that's exactly the importance of trust. Many people confuse the meaning of trust and think it’s just a status where you can share your secret with someone and know it will be kept safe, but no, trust is much more complex and profound than just that. It’s when you can lower your guard, be vulnerable, open yourself, share and accept your weaknesses with another individual and you know that they will maturely respect you. Like everything in this world, there are times when this may or may not apply. For example, imagine that you meet a new person at school (or work) that will only stay there for a month and then he/she will go to another country. In situations like this one, when you meet someone that you know you will never see again in your life, then sometimes, we may not care to be vulnerable with them and share your weaknesses because they will soon disappear and you may not care what they think about you when they are gone. But what happens in another scenario, where this new person will stay there for life. Would you open to them so easily? Would you share your weaknesses? Once a person takes an important role in your life, it is more difficult to trust them because they know everything about you, they know your friends and family and you build a certain reputation with them. This is why, just sometimes, it is harder to trust the people closest to you. People are egocentric, that’s why they cannot keep things in private. When they know something that no one else does, they feel special and important and revealing things to other people brings them attention and self esteem. It’s what in Peru we call “chisme”, or gossip in english. As humans we need trust in order to grow as individuals, to mutually help each other through difficult times and, thus, form a better future. We need trust, and therefore we must each find the people that also trust us, be it your parents, brothers, friends, there must always be someone.
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Bon
11/30/2015 06:23:49 am
Nico, it's no wonder you were one of the most engaged ones during the vulnerability TED talk. This is indeed a topic I love too. But it's missing the personal anecdote that would give this context. I'd like you to work on this and show it to me again. hashtagworkinprogress.
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